Aging well wasn’t even a concept I thought about. Then this past year, it all hit me at once. The afternoon naps I suddenly wanted. Dyeing my hair every two to three weeks, trying to keep up with my routine doctor’s appointments, then my eye doctor saying the word cataracts. I felt like I was…
I left with one backpack and a small suitcase. That was it. No car, no job waiting, no friends in the town I was moving to except Terry. That is how starting over after divorce began for me, not with a plan, but with a duffel bag and a one way trip across the country….
Loneliness after 50 can sneak up on you more than once in life, and it definitely did for me. There have been times in my life when I felt profoundly lonely. Most of those times were during my marriage to my abusive ex. He strategically isolated me from the few family members and friends I…
Learning how to stop self-blame is often the very first hurdle you face when rebuilding your life. I remember sitting alone after I left my abusive ex. I blamed myself for everything. Why did I marry him? Why did I let it go on so long? What is wrong with me? When you are in…
Terry and I just returned from a beautiful vacation on Orcas Island, a trip that reminded me how possible it is to find joy when rebuilding your life after 50. Our journey actually began a bit before the ferry ride when we met up with Terry’s brother and his wife. They were staying at a…
By Donna I remember strolling through a street fair several months after I left my abusive marriage. I was looking around at everyone laughing and loving life. I kept thinking to myself that something was wrong with me. I felt like I should be happy right now. I wanted to be relaxed, but instead, I…
A few years ago, well-meaning people would often tell my husband, Terry, that “time heals all wounds.” He grew tired of hearing it. When he was sitting alone in a quiet house trying to figure out what was next, he would think to himself that watching the days slip by did not heal a thing….
Today, I want to talk about redefining success and how it helps you design the life you actually want. Welcome to Rebuild With Clarity. We help those over 50 rebuild after life’s hardest moments. After a major crisis, many people feel a strange sense of failure. It can feel like you took a massive step…
Starting over after a major life transition often leaves people feeling stuck in limbo at 50, caught between a past that is over and a future that has not quite started yet. People like to talk about the pain of the past, or they might tell you it gets better over time. But they rarely…
Are you trying to get back on your feet, but you feel like something is missing? When people survive life’s hardest moments, they tend to focus on the basics. It is not about trying to rebuild who you were before everything fell apart; it is a structured process to reinvent yourself after 50 and frame…
